The uncontrollable desire of many people to have sex immediately with any stranger they meet and arouses them erotically is usually described as sex mania, compulsive sexual impulse, sex addiction, hypersexuality. As for the victims of this sexual disorder,East London Mistress they are usually characterized (disparagingly) as sex addicts, sex addicts, and even love addicts.
How do we choose the number of our sexual partners and how conscious or free can this “choice” between monogamy or polygamy be considered? Can we clearly distinguish the neurobiological from the socio-cultural parameters involved in the various manifestations of modern sex addiction?
As we saw in the previous article (Ef.Syn., 19-07-14), some of the first commonly accepted answers to these questions might be provided by neurochemistry, a relatively new but rapidly evolving field of Neuroscience research. which focuses on the biochemistry of the brain, seeking to isolate and determine – quantitatively and functionally – the role played by certain molecules (mainly hormones, neurotransmitters) in the normal functions or dysfunctions of the so-called “erotic brain”.
Today we will present some pathological manifestations of sex addiction, because these “abnormalities” reveal to us both the limits East London Mistress and the possibilities of the dominant to date scientific and sociological “explanations” of our love life.
Modern scientific approaches and especially the dominant social “explanations” of people’s erotic behavior stumble and dangerously balance between two diametrically opposite poles: on the one hand there are our very material biopsychological needs for sex that, ultimately, are regulated by the brain us, and on the other hand the romantic ideologies about “ethereal” erotic passions, which are supposed to have nothing to do with our biology.
If, however, we accept this schizophrenic discrimination, then we have to explain what exactly our sexual behavior depends on and by what criteria we decide whether or not it is “normal”. Is human eroticism shaped in every historical era exclusively by exogenous socio-cultural factors or is it, on the contrary, largely biologically predetermined?
Thus Manichaeically formulated the above questions seem to be capable of only two, mutually exclusive, answers: in our sexual life we can be either “social puppets” or “biochemical puppets”! However, examining some pathological manifestations of erotic behavior, we will find that reality is rarely identified or, at least, “fits” in our ideological prejudices.
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In an age of overt and systematic promotion of sexual freedom, at least in the West, experts have discovered a “new” sexual disease, sexual addiction.
People of both sexes are addicted to sex, who, while having sex with the object of their desire, can not be satisfied erotically and therefore are constantly looking for new and possibly more extreme erotic experiences. The love life of these men East London Mistress and women revolves torturously around the ineffective search for sexual satisfaction. Search in vain and unfortunately harmful for themselves but also for those who have an affair with them.
Perhaps this is why experts usually describe compulsive sexual impulse as erotomania, hypersexuality, donzuanism, nymphomania, while equally disparaging descriptions are reserved for victims of this sexual disorder: sex addicts, sex addicts, and even sex addicts. As for the heterogeneous factors involved in the occurrence of this sexual disorder, experts sometimes attribute it to biological predispositions, to hormonal-brain dysfunctions, and sometimes to childhood traumas or even to the devaluation of established social norms.
However, the official and valid Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM) includes a number of highly controversial “disorders”, such as sex addiction, penile envy, hysteria and narcissism. However, “sex addiction” is still not recognized by many internationally renowned experts as a condition or, at least, as a syndrome.
In any case, in order to decide whether or not to have sexual addiction, specialist doctors and psychologists resort to other criteria. In addition to the blind obsession with sex, a person should also show an alienated and completely distorted perception of the consequences of his own actions: what does not contribute or enhance the immediate satisfaction of his / her sexual appetites. considers it automatically rejected and hostile.
However, although experts do not have a commonly accepted definition – therefore, neither diagnosis nor treatment! – of “abnormal” sex addiction, they consider it to be a behavior that is closely related to other forms of addiction, e.g. addiction. Just like any drug addict, the erotomaniac exhibits all the typical symptoms of psychosomatic addiction, ie addiction and sex withdrawal syndrome.
In particular, sexual “deprivation” is manifested by excessive nervousness, bad mood and sometimes by the extremely violent behavior of the unsatisfied sex addict. In addition, several specific studies confirm that both sex addiction and certain “hard” drug addictions involve the same brain structures.
In reality, however, there are some notable differences between psychosomatic sex addiction and drug addiction. For example, it is certain that in order to be addicted and dependent e.g. from heroin or cocaine, a fairly long period of systematic intake of these substances by the user is required. Obviously if the same was true for sex, then we should all without exception be “sexually addicted” and after several sexual experiences to show “abnormal” erotic behavior!
But so the question arises, whether in the end, despite our romantic or ideological delusions, in terms of our erotic behavior we are nothing more than useless “biochemical puppets”?
From what we have said, we hope that it has become clear that neurological and biochemical explanations, although necessary and extremely useful, alone are not sufficient to understand the complex and multifaceted erotic behavior of humans. Undoubtedly, our brain is the real “erotic machine”, the function of which – good or bad – is certainly dependent on its chemistry; however, it is neither exhausted nor prescribed by it.
The most internationally valid research on the psychological and social profile of sex addicts shows that these individuals have usually experienced various traumatic experiences during their childhood, which they later tried to “manage” through some form of compulsive sexual addiction.
In fact, social psychologists insist that the occurrence and exacerbation of these phenomena depend solely on social and historical factors. They argue, for example, that they are primarily due to the rapid transition from the sexophobic culture that prevailed in the Western world until the 1960s to the sexophile “libertarian” culture of our time.
Nowadays anyone who does not have at least seven “complete” and “satisfactory” sexual encounters a week is considered almost “abnormal” and certainly sexually oppressed. However, the fact that the socially imposed “orgiastic” activity creates new disorders, e.g. great anxiety or even panic about the almost athletic excess of our sexual performance, does not seem to seriously concern the late followers of the “free expression” of our eroticism.
As for the old-fashioned notion of “abnormal” East London Mistress in our erotic practices, it de facto makes no sense at a time when our erotic desires are being manipulated by the media and mediated by the internet. Indeed, modern “sex slaves” saw the entry of the internet into their love life as a major upheaval: a technological upgrade that unleashes their “precast” erotic imagination and satisfies their most extreme erotic fantasies!
It is no wonder, then, that there is a lot of talk about the unprecedented phenomenon of “Internet Sexual Addiction”: anonymous, and therefore rewarding, access to “cybersex” is for more and more people a form of escape from the usual commonplace or their non-existent erotic reality.
More and more people – of all ages and genders – without real love life are turning to the internet today, seeking to “virtually” replenish their unfulfilled sexual appetites. Over time, the addiction to virtual sex paralyzes all the possibilities that these people had for real sexual intercourse and it is certainly absolutely destructive when it comes to young people!
So it is clear that, despite the complete “liberation” of our erotic morals, sex remains a taboo subject, albeit in exactly the opposite sense than in the past: while before 1960 no one spoke publicly about it , today we chat endlessly and seemingly at no cost!
Nowadays it is not only allowed but almost necessary to talk endlessly about sex: how, with whom or with whom we should do it in order to “upgrade” our sexual experiences, when should the love life of teenagers begin and why should they prolong their sexual experiences the elderly and so on.
However, all this sex diarrhea prevents us – and secretly forbids us – from thinking or questioning the true meaning of the prevailing erotic patterns-checks of our time.